Newborns
Body
There is
much to learn about looking after very new babies and, because
they have not yet settled down, caring for them is a very
demanding job. It is easy to get so involved in daily care
that you find yourself treating your child like a very precious
kind of object rather than a developing person, a new
human being.
But your
baby is human and your baby is developing - every moment of the
day. Don't let night feedings and wet diapers take up so much
of your attention that you miss the fascinating changes that
are taking place, the signs of your baby beginning to grow
up.
Postures and Head
Control
Newborns
are very scrunched-up looking creatures. Whatever position you
put your baby in, he will curl himself inward with his body
taking up its position in relation to his head. This is because
at this stage of life his head is so large and heavy in
relation to the rest of him that it acts as an anchor and a
pivot.
Until the
rest of him grows a little so that his head becomes relatively
lighter, and until he can get some control over the muscles of
his neck, the baby's voluntary movements will be restricted. At
the beginning he can lift that head a little and he will always
turn it to avoid smothering, but movements of his limbs are
restricted by his curled position, while the fact that his head
is always turned to one side prevents him from seeing things
which are directly above him.
A baby's
muscle control starts from the top and moves gradually
downward. When you hold him against your shoulder in the first
hours after birth, he rests his head against you. If you do not
support his neck for him, that head will simply flop. Within a
week he can force those neck muscles to lift the head away
for a second or two. A few days later he practices head
control so continually that when you hold him it feels as if he
were deliberately bumping his head against you:
effort-flop-effort-flop, again and again. By three to four
weeks he can balance his head for several seconds provided you
keep absolutely still. But he still needs your supporting hand
whenever you carry him and especially when you lift him or put
him down.
Reflex Physical
Activities
During the
first week of life, this baby, whose muscles are still so
incompetent even in balancing his head, exhibits some
remarkably mature-looking behaviors which sometimes fool
parents into believing that they have produced an infant who
will crawl or even walk at a few weeks of age! But these are
not voluntary or controlled movements. They are simply reflexes
which will die out over a few days and then be re-learned
months later as new accomplishments at the appropriate stage of
development.
False Crawling
If you put
him on his stomach, the baby's naturally curled-up position
leads him to flex legs and arms so that he looks as if he were
about to crawl off. He may even "scrabble" so that he wrinkles
his crib sheet. The position will be unlearned when the baby
becomes able to uncurl himself and lie flat.
False Walking
If you hold
the baby upright with his feet just touching a firm surface, he
will take quite deliberate "steps," placing one foot after
another while you support his weight. Once again he will
quickly unlearn this. By the time he is a week old he will
simply sag if you hold him upright.
False Clinging
In the
first days of life a baby's hand grip is incredibly strong. In
theory, you could hang him up by his hands and he would cling
on tightly enough not to fall. But don't try it. The ability
passes between one day and the next. You might choose the next
for your experiment!
But
although the baby's extraordinary strength of grip passes off,
some degree of reflex hand grip remains. If you put your finger
or a rattle into his closed fist, his hand will grip itself
around it. When you try to remove it, his fist will close even
more tightly in a reflex attempt to hang on. This reaction
to the feel of a grippable object in his palm will remain
through all the weeks that must pass before the baby is ready
to learn to take hold of objects on purpose. So hanging on with
his hands is not something which, like crawling or walking, he
has to unlearn and then learn all over again. In this instance
the reflex action eventually gives way to deliberate
action.
A Reminder to be Careful . .
.
If your
baby, who would like to cling to you, feels that he is about to
be dropped, he produces a violent and obviously distressed
reflex which is called the "Moro response." If you jerk him
while you are holding his hands, you will see his arms snatch
up at yours and his legs curve convulsively upward as if
seeking a body around which to clasp themselves. If you put him
down carelessly, so that your hands start to release him before
he feels the firm security of the mattress, he will throw out
both his arms and legs and then flex them violently; his head
will jerk back because the reflex movements have upset his head
control; he will probably cry out in fear.
Like other
reflexes, the Moro response has lost its direct usefulness to
the baby because he does not have the muscle power to save
himself from a fall by holding on. But the response is still a
useful one. Every time your baby reacts in this violently
startled way you will know that you have handled him too
roughly, too unexpectedly or without taking enough care to
support his heavy head. Moro responses are a hint to parents to
take more care.
Playing with Your
Baby
Play is
more important to babies than it is to adults. For an adult,
play is usually a form of recreation; for a baby, it is a means
of learning about himself and the world around him. When he
grabs and shakes a rattle, gums and chews a teething ring,
squashes and squeaks a rubber duck, he is learning that he can
make things happen. He learns about himself, as well as about
the objects he is playing with.
When you
talk, coo, laugh, hug, and kiss your baby, he learns that
certain things he does make an impact on you. Learning
activities (play) for a baby during an average day might
include singing and talking; caressing, touching, and cuddling
when changing or feeding him; a massage after a bath; baby
exercises; moving to different rooms; games, such as
peek-a-boo; and playing with appropriate
toys.
Baby Exercise
Much has
been written about baby exercise, and some community centers
feature classes in infant stimulation and parent-baby
exercises. The purpose is twofold: to educate parents about
their infants' physical growth and development, and to teach
parents some appropriate and fun ways to play with their
babies. By using these simple exercises, you not only play with
your baby, but you learn more about his capabilities and
limitations.
These
exercises will probably not speed up your baby's development,
since growth and development normally occur in an orderly and
predictable fashion with or without infant exercise. But you
can enhance your baby's development by giving him the chance to
use the muscles he is already learning to
control.
The baby
exercises (below) are designed for babies one week to three
months old. A young baby (one to six weeks) may have tightly
flexed legs and arms. If you gently jiggle or pat his hands,
arms, or legs, you may help relax his muscles and they will
move more easily. Keep your movements slow, gentle, and
rhythmic. Try singing songs to him as you move his limbs. After
a few sessions, he will relax and seem to anticipate the
movements.
Exercise or
play with your baby when he is in the quiet-alert state--wide
awake, calm, and attentive. If he is fussy, hungry, upset, or
sleepy, chances are you will not enjoy yourselves. Unless
otherwise noted, do the following exercises on the floor or on
a firm surface. As your baby grows older, you may want to do
other exercises.
Arm Cross
To
relax chest and upper back
muscles.
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With your
baby on his back, place your thumbs in your baby's palms. When
he grasps them, open his arms wide to the side. Bring them
together and cross his arms over his chest. Repeat slowly and
gently, using rhythmic movements.
Arm
Raising
To
facilitate flexibility of the shoulders.
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With your
baby on his back, grasp your baby's forearms or hands. Raise
them over his head, then lower them to his sides. Repeat slowly
and gently, using rhythmic movements. Alternate arms--while one
goes up, the other goes down.
Leg
Bending
To
facilitate flexibility of hips; may help baby pass
gas.
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With your
baby on his back, grasp lower legs and gently bend his
knees up toward his abdomen and chest. Gently lower
his legs until they are straight. Repeat several
times. Alternate, bending one leg while
straightening the other.
Inchworm
To
bring about extension of legs and back.
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With your
baby on his tummy, bend his knees under him, holding his feet
with your thumbs against the soles. Thumb pressure on his soles
will cause him to straighten his legs and move
forward like an
inchworm.
Baby Bounce
To
comfort baby or ready the baby for play.
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Place your
baby on his back or tummy on a foam rubber pad, bed, your
lap, or any soft, bouncy surface. Slowly and gently press the
bouncy area around the baby (or bounce baby on your lap) so the
baby rocks up and down. Use a gentle, rhythmic up-and-down
motion, and he will relax. You may also try patting your baby
rhythmically on his chest, back, arms, and
legs.
Baby Massage
Massage is
the language of touch. With a massage, you can calm and soothe
your baby and communicate your love and care. During massage,
keep the following points in mind. A nice way to start is with
a bath. Then, after making sure the room is warm, remove the
towel or receiving blanket, and put your baby on the floor.
(You can also sit with the baby on your lap or kneel in front
of him.) Baby lotion and baby oil soak into the skin too fast,
so use vegetable oil, massage oil, or cornstarch. Put the oil
or cornstarch on your hands first, then rub your hands together
to warm them. Tell your baby what you are doing or sing a song.
Rub gently during the first month; as the baby gets older, you
can exert more pressure. Once you have touched the baby, keep
at least one hand in contact with him until the massage is
over. Don't massage your baby's trunk if his stomach is full.
Be sensitive and responsive to his reactions; stop if he is not
enjoying himself.
If he is
enjoying himself, and he probably is, here are some motions you
can try:
- Stroking with your open
palms
- Stroking
with the thumbs or
fingers
- "Raking" with the tips of the
fingers
- Tapping lightly with the tips of the
fingers
- Massaging arms or legs with a wringing
motion
- Doing
whatever feels good to you and makes the baby
happy
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